Black Shirt-Herbergers, Skirt-Thrifted J Crew Brand, Ballet Flats-Payless
One of the many good things that has come from writing on this blog (and reading other people's blogs) is that I now own my convictions. A hard thing for most girls to realize is that your parent's convictions are not your convictions! I've had numerous young ladies comment on my blog stating basically: "If only I was on my own, then I'd know what I believe about modesty." But I don't believe that! My mom and I used to have fights about my clothes, sometimes ending in tears. I didn't understand her convictions about modesty, and I didn't really want to. I'd grumble and complain and head to the closet to change my clothes-but not with the right heart.
But what is the point of that? I'm not really sure when it "clicked" for me, but it was definitely God's leading. I decided that maybe my parents knew a thing or two. Maybe that tight shirt wasn't such a good idea. I was blessed to see some great examples of modesty through the internet-all of the ladies older than me. It wasn't a flashing light moment or anything like that, I just decided that my parent's modesty standards are my standards. I adopted their standards and actually added some of my own! I really want to encourage all of you (especially the younger readers) to listen to your mom when she says "Hey, I don't think that shirt is very modest..." Believe me, I know it can be hard and frustrating! The temptation to show off your body, look "hot" and dress "fashionable" are always there. I'm sorry, but they don't go away. However, you can dress flatteringly and not to show off your body! You can look beautiful instead of "hot". And of course the myth about not being fashionable while dressing modestly is a myth! ; ) I believe that there is always another option-even for tight shirts (pairing them with a vest or something that covers the areas that are too tight).
So I encourage you to think about your convictions-are they your's? Or are you parroting what your parents say, not really believing it? Trust me, your parents know a lot more than you do! If you don't have a godly mother/father/sister/brother in your life who can help you in the area of modesty, I would be so blessed if you would let me help you! I'm positive we can come up with some ways to make your outfits modest and cute at the same time! And don't be shy, asking questions is nothing to be ashamed of! If modesty is new to you, please don't hesitate to ask anything you've been wondering-I'd be glad to answer them! I know that not everyone has Godly parents to guide them in this area, so ask away!
Anything else you can add ladies?